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Letting Go of a Married Man, Part 4

by The 4-Way Panel

Dear 4-Way,

For the past few years, I’ve been seeing someone who is married. I know it’s wrong. He knows it’s wrong. But it happened and now we can’t control it. Once in a while, I get the “I’m going to leave her” comment from him. I know that’s never going to happen and that he’s just saying that to humor me. So here’s my question: what am I thinking? I’m wasting my life away hung up on someone who’s unavailable, yet I can’t seem to break the cycle or escape the feelings I have. What do I do?—DJ

Born In A Crossfire Hurricane, That Explains It …

Gimme Shelter
courtesy of Mayles Films

Shining A Light On A Stabby ’60s Gem


Greetings and salutations* film nerds …

Letting Go of a Married Man, Part 3

by The 4-Way Panel

Dear 4-Way,

For the past few years, I’ve been seeing someone who is married. I know it’s wrong. He knows it’s wrong. But it happened and now we can’t control it. Once in a while, I get the “I’m going to leave her” comment from him. I know that’s never going to happen and that he’s just saying that to humor me. So here’s my question: what am I thinking? I’m wasting my life away hung up on someone who’s unavailable, yet I can’t seem to break the cycle or escape the feelings I have. What do I do?—DJ

St. Patrick's Day: Green Beer for All





Green beer. Everyone makes fun of me for having my ritual St. Patrick's Day toast with a glass of chromatologically-enhanced beer. And of course, it is a silly and cheesy practice, but that's why I like it. Beer just seems to taste good when it's green and the day is the 17th of March. Naturally, I'm listening to the Pogues’ If I Should Fall from Grace with God (their best album, and don't even try to tell me otherwise) as I write (and drink). Green beer also tastes better when consumed with a shot of Jameson before noon on St. Patrick's Day.

The Eat + Drink List: This week's top 7


courtesy of Stefanie Michejda

1. Night School

If your shaker is looking a little rusty, it might be time to enroll in Bourbon & Branch’s Beverage Academy, their series of 2-hour evening classes covering attention-holding topics as “Gin: from bathtubs and back alleys to the upper class,” “Tequila: the spirit of Mexico,” and “Whiskey Confidential.”  Sign up for their upcoming classes on March 24th and 25th, held in the B&B library.

2. Carnivores Unite

Southern Exposure: SF Makes Its Mark on SXSW

Sugar & Gold
Sugar & Gold; photo courtesy of Melissa Goldstein

Proving you can take San Francisco bands out of the city, but you can’t take them out of rotation, Talking House Records’ SFxSXSW showcase at Austin’s Bourbon Rocks focused the spotlight on the Bay Area’s music talent. We’re happy to share with Texas, but since our loyalty is to the hometown team, here we offer a rundown of the showcase’s highlights, with contributions from Melissa Goldstein, Aaron Davidson and Nicole Beckley.

Ecco Caffè: More Fancy Coffee Coming to You Soon

In the name of research for an upcoming story, I was “experiencing” a mid-work-day lunch last week at Bar Bambino and in order to make it back to my desk without falling asleep, I had to finish off with an upper in order to ward off the carb + red wine–induced coma that was coming on strong.


Ecco coffee at Bar Bambino: A thing of beauty.

Vintage Fashion Expo



The Vintage Fashion Expo is a treasure trove for clotheshorses and fashion devotees, but for someone who is easily distracted, like me, it can be overwhelming (in a good way). This weekend, the Nob Hill Masonic Center was transformed into a vintage lover’s dream: 85 clothing and accessories dealers ready to outfit you in all sorts of goodies.

Rare Burgundies Dinner at the St. Francis

WELCOME TO SF, LA PAULEE!



I have to write a brief report on the craziness that was La Paulée, the big Burgundy party in which everyone brings a great bottle (or ten) to share. There was so much great wine at this year's dinner, held on March 1, that had it not been so delicious, it would have been sickening. It was all collected in a back room at the Westin St. Francis, where the army of sommeliers (somewhere around 60 of them, from all over the country) would fetch it and pour it for the guests who brought it.

St. Patrick's Day: What (Not) To Do


courtesy of United Irish Societies of San Francisco

Yup, it’s that time of year again, where normal people don leprechaun outfits, drink ridiculous amounts of green beer and claim to be at least 1/18th Irish. If you’re so inclined, feel free to cram yourself into a local pub where, come midnight, some jerk will start belting out “Danny Boy.” But should you be looking for a slightly more, uh, refined way to celebrate the Emerald Isle, check out the following.
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