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Closing an Open Relationship

by The 4-Way Panel

Dear 4-Way,

My boyfriend and I have had an open relationship for a little over two years. We are free to have safe, physically intimate relationships with other people, but have always said that our emotional relationship would be exclusive. This worked for both of us for a while because we love the fun of the first kiss, the first touch, etc, which you can’t get when you only have one partner.

S is for Swanton Berry Farm



I don’t think there’s any path you can take directly from SF that offers a quicker—certainly more breathtaking—antidote to city-living than a trip down Highway 1 to Santa Cruz. On a sunny weekend, like this last one, it was everything I needed. Find a friend to drive you, so you can gaze out to the sparkling ocean without careening off the steep cliffs to a horrible death. It’s impossible not to look.

Amber Marie Bently Spring Collection Trunk Show

On May 7th, Amber Marie Bently debuted the Fresh Spring Collection from her exquisite line of sustainable Jewelry to over 400 guests at the W. Hand-crafted in San Francisco with recycled materials, the new collection  features an array of distinctive pieces all inspired by Bently’s world travels. The event supported the efforts of Dress For Success, a non-profit organization dedicated to helping Undeserved women find professional success and gainful employment.




Christopher Bently, Shannon Dean

Summer Trend Alert: Flat Sandals

Jogging around the Marina this weekend in 85-degree heat instantly turned me into a marketer’s dream. I felt uncomfortably warm in my sneakers after an afternoon run, so I popped over to Chestnut Street for a quick shopping detour where more than a few boutiques had the latest footwear trends—gladiator and ankle-strap sandals—displayed prominently in their windows. There were so many choices, from exotic skins to embellished and metallic leather; I wasn’t sure whether I was feeling light headed from the exercise or the dizzying shoe selection. So what if I’d be back home amid the misty Sunset fog in an hour? The sight of all those gorgeous feet-baring flats sent me on a post-workout mission to find some hot options for the next SF heat wave.

Robert Mondavi: RIP

The great man died today. His most lasting achievement will be, for better or worse, the elevation of the Napa--and therefore the California--wine industry from small-time regional curiosity to international juggernaut. More than as a maker of phenomenal wines, he has come to be known as a great marketer, for both his own winery and for wine in general.

Foot Fisted at the Hollywood Roosevelt (Part 2)

Ahoy film snots from the deep end of the Hollywood Roosevelt Pool where Poppa H is enjoying another one of his 96 annual vacation days catfishing below the famous diving board where pinup goddess Marilyn Monroe first unleashed her va-va-va-vooms in front of the life sucking Hollywood cameras…Why’s Aqua Dork chilling at the bottom of a pool?  Dude (whispering), keep it hush-hush but I just got thrown off that balcony by Kimbo Slice, the Ultimate Fighting Champion after a testy brunch time altercation.  How could you not see that shit?  I’m hiding from the beast.  Get lost.

Tipping Point Community Benefit

Nearly 475 guests crowded into Bimbo’s 365 Club in North Beach on May 1 for the annual Tipping Point Community Benefit. The event, attended by local luminaries Ronnie Lott, Charles Schwab and Sergey Brin, raised a record $3.76 million for poverty-fighting programs in the Bay Area.


Kate Harbin and Adam Clammer


Charles and Helen Schwab

Dessert Wines: Sweet, Fizzy and Red

Last night, for a birthday dinner for a friend, I was asked to bring some Champagne to go with the dessert course. Now, for any wine pairing with a dessert, you must know the simple rule that the wine should always be sweeter than the food. If you get it wrong, it makes both the wine and the dessert taste bad. The most common example of this understandable error is at weddings, when dry Champagne is served with wedding cake. No wedding that I have ever attended when this faulty pairing has occurred has ever resulted in a successful marriage. It is why, at my wedding, we avoided cake altogether.

Hard Cider: How D'Ya Like Them Apples?



Ever since I was 15 and traveling through France and Britain with my family, I've loved European dry, alcoholic apple cider. This is probably because my parents wouldn't let me drink beer, scotch or (much) wine, but they would let me get the occasional buzz off cider. While there, I developed an affection for the dry, crisp apple-y taste of the stuff.
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