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Two Sense: Handling the Ex Factor

My ex-girlfriend (from about three years ago) recently got married. I'm happy she found someone and was proud to attend their wedding. All through their dating and engagement, she and I saw each other socially—we haven't slept together since our breakup—about once a week and we intend to continue seeing each other. Unfortunately, her husband has an issue with this. Although I’ve tried to meet him for lunch and drinks a few times, he’s always found an excuse to be somewhere else. I've never been a threat to him; how do we deal with his problem?
 

He Said: You deal with his problem by respecting their marriage and honoring his concerns even if you don’t feel they’re valid. You may not be a sexual threat to this guy, but you continue to be intimate with his wife and that may need to change drastically. How much it needs to change depends on your relationship with your friend. Imagine she has a problem with her husband; if she would seriously consider coming to you to discuss it, then you have an outdated and inappropriate relationship with her.

Nesting Instinct: A 400 Square Foot Lower Pacific Heights Apartment

Five years ago, design consultant Frances Weiss and her then-fiancé shared an apartment in Bernal Heights with some pretty rotten mojo. "Someone overdosed and died there shortly before we moved in," says Weiss, 35. The couple’s relationship irrevocably soured soon after they took up residence. The newly single Weiss sought safe harbor in a light-filled, 400-square-foot studio in Lower Pacific Heights. "It felt warm and safe from the moment I stepped foot in it," she says. "It was such a welcome relief coming from a bad relationship and a haunted apartment."

Weathering Heights: An 850 Square Foot Apartment in the Mission

"We like to describe the decor as ‘faded Cuban glamour,’" says stylist and designer Monique Ramos of the Mission apartment she shares with her boyfriend, artist Richard Colman. The intriguing tableau, a sunny 850-square-foot space, arises from the most unexpected medley of nostalgic travel mementos (jars of sand from all over the world), moody works of art (seascapes and taxidermy installations), and enchanting timeworn furnishings (chandeliers and vintage leather seating).

Show Review: Dr. Dog and Here We Go Magic @ The Fillmore

A diverse crowd gathered on the dance floor for last night’s Dr. Dog show at the Fillmore: hip, metal-head moms with their young daughters in-tow; jocks in faux-hawks and Brian Wilson beards with their orange and black clad counterparts, fists still pumping from the Giants victory parade earlier in the day; hipster-geeks who spent the precious minutes between sets propped against the stage with their Mac-Books; be-dreaded pseudo-hippies with Klean Kanteens hanging from their belts.

Locked & Loaded: November Openings

Next week should be a good one for trying new things. Two (two!) exciting new coffee venues will be opening--or should, at least--both of which are continuing to push quality beans out from the center of the city. Contraband Coffee Bar looks like it is finally set to open (we hope), while Ma*Velous, which had an opening party last week, should open as well. 

American-Graffiti Style Estate Sale in Sonoma

The offerings at an incredible estate sale in Sonoma County this weekend bring to mind George Lucas' iconic film American Graffiti. But make no mistake, these 60s-era finds aren't stage props, they are the real deal from a family that ran a beloved diner-style restaurant for decades in Petaluma.The restaurant was Beasleys, and for 21 years the owners served three squares a day at their historic Wickersham Building establishment in the town where American Graffiti was filmed.

SF Authors' Luncheon Celebrates The Year's Brightest Writers

For any fanatic of the written word, the SF Authors' Luncheon, now in its 22nd year, is the place to be this Saturday, November 6th at the SF Marriott Marquis. Benefitting the National Kidney Foundation, the audience gets a chance to bask in the witty glow of six nationally known authors over lunch, followed by book signings and mingling.

See Lanvin's H&M Collection

Back in September, we confirmed the rumor that H&M's next big designer collaboration would, in fact, be Alber Elbaz for Lanvin. The collection still doesn't hit shelves until November 23, but you can sneak a peak at the entire line in this video The Show.

 

ODD at ODC Theater Speculates on the Nature of Flesh and the Human Condition

Ballet. Tap. Jazz. Modern. Hip hop. Rhythm and Motion. All forms of dance you're familiar with. Wheelchairs moving effortlessly in a seamlessly choreographed work of art—now, this is a dance concept you may never have heard of. This weekend, inkBoat and AXIS Dance Company come together to present ODD at ODC Theater, a collaboration inspired by the Scandinavian painter Odd Nerdrum whose work plunges to the depths of human condition, exposing loneliness, fear, hatred, birth, and death with uncanny precision.

New Weekly Feature: Ask a Vet from the SF SPCA

You need only look to the 30,000+  votes we received in this year's first annual Pet Poll as evidence that San Francisco loves its furry ones.

So to help you, Fluffy and Fido on your quest towards city pet awesomeness, we've enlisted the San Francisco SPCA to write a weekly "Ask the Vet" column on 7x7.

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