Are Fake Boobs a Turn-On or a Turn-Off?

I’m a 40-year-old woman contemplating a boob job, but every guy I know seems to respond negatively to the idea, saying fake boobs feel terrible. Are breast implants a turn-on or turn-off?

He Said: Guys are most attracted to women who feel good about themselves, especially as they get older. A hot, young chick can be surly, depressed, boring, untrustworthy, or annoying and still have guys trailing after her. But women and men attract the partner they deserve as the years go by. The real question is not what will your guy friends think, but how will you feel if your breasts are firmer, possibly larger, but probably less sensitive? The statistics say that most women are glad they had work done, so that’s encouraging.While taking some time to make this decision, relax and try to find ways to expand your sexuality. Some people positively ooze sex appeal well past their physical prime, while others have never seen a day outside the subprime market.

She Said: I know what you mean. Every single one of my male friends who have encountered fake boobs makes a squished-up face when describing how they feel. Frankly, I think they like how they look but not how they feel. So keep that in mind. Are you more concerned with impressing a man visually or on a tactile level?

More importantly, since it’s possible you’ll feel less sensation after surgery, are you most concerned with looking sexy or with feeling sexual (assuming your breasts have been a source of pleasure for you)? These two experiences are tightly linked for women, so here’s your chance to do some crucial self-examination. The timing is just right since you’re hitting middle age. In my experience, a woman’s sexual appeal has much more to do with the way she moves than the way she looks. If the fakes are going to make you glide through your days, inhabit your body more fully, smile with your eyes as well as your mouth, breathe more deeply, and hear music in your head as you amble down the street, and you’re willing to feel less sensation there and possibly turn off a few guys in bed, then get ’em. But if you can achieve any of that with a Wonderbra, a little imagination, and an attitude adjustment, give those a fair shot before going under the knife. Sensuality is every woman’s birthright, and it certainly doesn’t begin waning until long after 40—in fact sometimes, it’s just beginning.

Confused? Heartbroken? Curious? Send your questions to Twosense@7x7.com and we might just answer them here. Have thoughts about this post? We want to hear 'em! Comment below.

Illustration by Marcos Chin

No offense,but you're 40...hasn't that ship kind of sailed?
If you haven't accepted yourself as you are now,then you never will.Even after you have your fake boobs.
Fake boobs are ugly and they don't move at all.

By Anonymous (not verified) on October 25, 2011

are you all serious? i have real boobs and do just fine in SF. I don't dress all librarian frumpy as I will admit a lot of SF girls do BUT, being a straight girl, i can say there are TONS OF HOT GIRLS IN SF!
what we are really missing are HOT GUYS!
Unless you "men" are going to step it up a notch, you have no right to ask for ANYTHING! fake boobs included.
I know about 4 cute guys in this city (most of whom happen to be commitment phobes...and guess why: they can't choose between all of their hot women!).
Idk where y'all are looking but trust me, there are plenty of hot, natural girls in this city...in fact, i think its time i bat for the other team...

By Anonymous (not verified) on April 14, 2011

I think is you feel insecure and you want to hide your breasts when you are in bed with someone, then you should think about getting breast implants. But if you like missionary they might not be comfortable. If you have autoimmune problems, no. Is you form scars or adhesions no.

By Anonymous (not verified) on October 03, 2010

Having lived in Los Angeles, Newport Beach, and now San Francisco......I can tell you that Southern California girls are way more sexy then their counterparts up North. Looks, physique, attitudes, sex appeal........ all areas. I don't care how "smart" you are, if you look frumpy, act frumpy, and are 10-20 lbs. overweight you aren't going to get a second look from me.........or any other male

By Anonymous (not verified) on September 27, 2010

The men who've posted here need to be boycotted. No sex with guys like them, ladies. If it's true they only want us to be "hot" and "insecure" and "10s instead of 7s" ... fair enough. It's also true they need sex more than we do, and not even necessarily good sex: fast superficial sex is enough, as long as she looks and acts and moans like a porn star. I say, have at it. Have a ball. You guys go eff the slutty 10s with the fakies and the low-self-esteem. Eventually, you'll cheat on your slutty girlfriends too, because let's face it, variety is the spice of life and there's always someone younger, firmer and sluttier to eff. For a while, anyway. Then you'll get old (women aren't the only ones who age). And when you do, unless you are very rich, you'll be alone ... or with an old stupid former hottie. Good luck with that.

By Anonymous (not verified) on September 24, 2010

PS, all guys spend a tremendous amount of time looking at online porn of hot chicks with fake cans. It's true.

By Spencer (not verified) on September 22, 2010

You know the term, "yes man?" Well, sometimes it's good to have a "no man" out there to tell you the stuff you don't want to hear.

Yeah, smart is attractive. But, ever wonder why so many dudes cheat on their chicks? Because deep down, guys want to screw the hot, dirty girl. You don't f their minds. You think your bf or husband isn't scamming on the little hottie walking out of the gym through his sunglasses after you had a lovely breakfast at The Grove? Hell yes he is. He's thinking, damn I would love to have 32 minutes with that.

Lesson of the day...be smart and all that...but, be hot first. Done. That's how we think.

By Spencer (not verified) on September 22, 2010

you guys are a-holes! there are plenty of beautiful women in san francisco. they are not trashy and whores like in LA. people are so retarted and fake in LA. in san francisco, we are intelligent and have progressive intentions. smart is beautiful!

By Dana Beck (not verified) on September 22, 2010

I would have to say breast enhancement makes a girl go up 1-2 points on the hot scale. Easily. And in this town, I would encourage more to do it. Ever heard the term, land of 6's and 7's? People love to hate on LA chicks, but that's because they're not hot like them. Get off your high horse. You know it's fun to be eye f'ed by other dudes. Even all the mombook types know this and secretly want the attention.

By Peter North (not verified) on September 22, 2010

I had surgery on Tuesday. I know I said I had decided against it, but
when the opportunity presented itself I really still wanted it. So I
have new boobs! I haven't seen them yet, but according to Dr. Chiu and
all the nurses, they turned out looking fantastic. I guess all the
women kept saying that they wanted them too! I have my post-op
appointment at 12:30pm today so I will see them soon and report back!
I'm excited!!! I know ou girls weren't too keen on it, but I'm happy
:)

By Cara Goldstein (not verified) on September 22, 2010

that is one thing LA has done better than SF. there are so many more hot girls in SF than LA, so the girls in LA have to do anything to keep up. so every chick has fake boobs. its the best. in SF, the girls have way more self esteem (which is a negative thing) so they feel more "comfortable" about themselves, and don't feel they have to improve. NEWSFLASH: you DO have to improve. you are white chicks, and age faster than asians, latinas, etc.

By Anonymous (not verified) on September 22, 2010

agree with anonymous. girls that have them are way more slutty and adventurous in bed. even if they say they aren't.

that's a huge turn-on. girls that don't are usually more prude, and nowadays that doesn't play.

another myth...girls want guys to wear condoms. its a lie! don't believe it...if a girl asks you to wear a condom, she doesnt really like you.

By Anonymous (not verified) on September 22, 2010

without question...YES! you have to get them. fake t**s are the best. any dude that says they aren't, feels that way because he doesn't want his girl to get them because dudes will jock her more.

there is something very attractive about a girl who is so insecure about herself, that she is willing to get surgery in an attempt to improve herself. that's super hot. seriously.

By Anonymous (not verified) on September 22, 2010