Love + Sex
According to Sabrina Chaw, you can eat in a way that uses masculine energy (hasty and goal-centered) or feminine energy (mindful and slow). A quiet, healthful meal ranks high on Chaw’s recommendations at A Feminine Feast, a nutrition practice with a heavy bent on yoga and traditional Chinese medicine. When women come to Chaw to address body image and weight, she coaches them on the pleasures of food and how to eat from their feminine side. That, in turn, nourishes their sexuality and relationships.
In June, Ginger Murray launched a print quarterly, the first issue of which covered such varied topics as vibrators, linguistics, gay porn, history, and car repair. The idea is to provoke intelligent conversations about sexuality, gender, and identity. Murray named her magazine Whore! as a way to embrace the word’s earliest definition: one who desires. It’s also not a bad ploy to get people talking.
It’s a cliché, but Louann Brizendine doesn’t doubt that the penis has a mind of its own. Autopilot erections are uncontrollable and don’t necessarily mean a man wants to have sex. That’s just one of the stereotypes the Sausalito resident examines in her book, The Male Brain, the followup to her best-selling The Female Brain. Using research and anecdotal evidence drawn from her practice, Brizendine shines a light on how men’s brains develop, what makes guys fall in love, and why they finally commit.
Men and women have been flocking to Nicole Daedone’s OneTaste in SoMa for her relationship, sexuality, and couples workshops for six years now. Some go on to the resident program and orgasmic meditation (OM) practice—more on that later. In May, she releases Slow Sex: The Art and Craft of the Female Orgasm, a guide to more intimate, even spiritual, sex.
A couple enjoys the view from Twin Peaks.
In this week's edition of Scenes of the City, we're celebrating Valentine's Day with some appropriately lovey images. While 7x7 did not ask each and every one of these people if they were "in love" (which might have gotten awkward) they all appear to be sharing a moment with a special someone or two.
Skip the cologne, roses and lingerie, and get your sweetie something more creative this V-Day. Here are seven ideas.
Instead of Cologne:
Turn your man into the suave, debonair type you’ve always loved by gifting him with an old-fashioned shaving kit. The straight razor is back in style, but unless he’s a pro, he’ll appreciate this compact shaving set with a pure badger brush, stand, and five-blade, nickel-plated razor. $195 at The Art of Shaving, 287 Geary St., 415-677-0871.
For this week's "Scenes of the City" we attended the Meet Your Cougar Valentine Party at 111 Minna. Although the scene was a bit like an awkward high school dance at times, as the drinks flowed, people loosened up and the cougars and cubs came out of their dens.
Love it or hate it, Valentine's Day is here. Plan accordingly.
California Academy of Sciences "Sex and Science" Wine & Dine Tour
The day before Valentine's Day, see how love and sex manifests itself in the animal kingdom, from penguins to lobsters to sea slugs (!) and more, then toast your date over wine and a four-course meal at the museum's decorated Moss Room restaurant. Make it a double whammy with a quick trip to the de Young beforehand. $159 per person. Starts at 6 pm. 415-379-8000. Tickets here.
It happened far too many times on the book tour. After a reading from my memoir about turning 50 as a single woman (Oh the places I’d gone! The adventures I’d had! The men I’d slept with!), I’d open the floor to questions from the predominantly female audience.
In addition to queries about writing, the publishing world, and the true names of my lovers, I could count on at least one from a 20- or 30-something, clutching her purse anxiously: “Um, can you tell me where I can go to meet guys in the Bay Area?”
You've got someone in mind to be your Valentine this year, but haven't sealed the deal with a date yet. What to do? Here are some first date ideas to get your engines started:
Dinner and a show is an iron-clad combo when it comes to getting to know someone new, so why not get it done at two of the city's best hang-out spots? There's nothing like live music at the revamped Independent to break the ice.