By: The 4-Way Panel

Dear 4-Way,

Why do guys ask for your phone number and then never call?—JT

    The gay woman’s perspective: Jody Fischer

News flash: girls do it too. Next time ask for his number. This puts you on an equal playing field. Have you ever been the one who has to make the call? It’s not easy to put yourself out there. Unfortunately for some, simply asking for a number and getting it means you’ve already “won” because you GOT THE NUMBER. Sometimes the fear of possible rejection outweighs the risk of the making a second connection. I’ve learned that life is short, so don’t wait for things to come to you. Get his number and make the call.

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