By: The 4-Way Panel

Dear 4-Way,

Why do guys ask for your phone number and then never call?—JT

    The straight woman’s perspective: Rebecca Brown

The hell if I know, JT. Maybe the fun is just the actual act of getting the number, Swingers style. A guy friend once hypothesized that maybe the asker had too many drinks and forgot that he had gotten my number—until he came across it a few weeks later all crumpled and illegible in his wallet. My friend thought maybe the guy felt too stupid to call at that point. Sigh. Maybe you should get their number or email address from now on, as an insurance policy.

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