By: The 4-Way Panel

Dear 4-Way,

Why do guys ask for your phone number and then never call?—JT

    The straight man’s perspective: Chris Kennedy

For the same reason(s) girls don’t call a guy back after she’s given him her number. There are myriad reasons people have second thoughts: they slept on it (or have already slept with it) and decided they’re not ready to date, they’re more interested in pursuing someone else and don’t want to juggle, or their significant other found out. Each case is individual and since it’s unlikely you’re going to get an explanation, you just have to let it go. The dating world is a jungle and you’ve got to heed the call of the wild… even when there isn’t one to heed.

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