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Two Sense: Who's on Top?

My boyfriend and I are either too much alike or he's copying me, and I don't know what to do about it. Both of us started out pretty versatile about being either a top or a bottom. But for whatever reason, I gravitated to the top more (someone had to!) and have stayed there for much of the last year. Recently though, he told me that he wants us to start trading off again. While I was talking this over with friends, they mentioned that they thought my boyfriend was just emulating me, pointing out that he's started to dress more like me, changed the way he talks, etc. So I’m not sure whether he really wants to be top or whether this is just another way for him to copy me.

Two Sense: Is My Boyfriend Gay?

I've been seeing this great guy—hot, thoughtful, funny, professional. But I've had two girlfriends mention to me that he seems gay. (Doesn't act like it in bed.) I don't want to weird him out by asking, but I also don't want to get serious with him if he might someday "realize" he's gay.

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