I am engaged to a woman 15 years my junior. She's smart, pretty, and loyal. We have created a solid relationship based on shared interests, communication, and trust. But for some time, I've enjoyed the company of a wide range of women, especially when I travel. This company often involves sex, though not always. It has become part of my identity as a man, and I don’t want to entirely give it up. It brings me great joy and a constant sense of adventure, which is important as I'm nearing 40. My problem is that I can't tell my girlfriend. She simply is not mature enough to understand that lifelong monogamy is just not right for everyone. She would leave me for sure, which would devastate me. But on the other hand, I feel like I'm violating the sense of trust that we have developed. What should I do?
It may have been gold and frogs that first brought Calaveras County fame and fortune, but these days tourism has become the big draw. In a sense, what’s old has become new again. Visitors can step back in time in historic gold mining towns like Angels Camp, explore a nearby prehistoric cavern, or hike among thousand year old giants.
Los Feliz is by far the prettiest neighborhood on the East side of LA, hip enough to provide a culture fix but moneyed enough to avoid the grit of its highly touted neighbors, Silverlake and Hollywood. Its two main tree-lined avenues, Hillhurst and Vermont, run parallel to each other, and are easily navigable on foot.
Believe it or not, it does get chilly in the winter in LA–at least at night. And LA makes a respectable winter wonderland effort with holiday themed events and decorated neighborhoods. If you haven't reached holiday bliss yet, a visit to one of the local pop up ice rinks will make you feel like a kid at Christmas again.
The last round of rain may have slowed down some fine tuning, but the drenching hasn’t put a damper on holiday decorations in the North Bay. Folks were out in full force this weekend hunting for neighborhoods decked out in their season’s best, and they were not disappointed.
You’d think Atwater Village would be overrun with hipsters after gaining attention from The New York Times this past year. But the little pocket of northeastern Los Angeles bordering Griffith Park, just a stone’s throw from both Silverlake and Los Feliz, is still uncrowded and neighborly, even though Details magazine named it one of the six best emerging neighborhoods on the planet.
The holidays are coming fast and furious. While some stores have been decorated for months, last weekend was the official, albeit wet, kickoff for homes and neighborhoods around the Bay Area to flip the switch on their holiday spirit. I went hunting during my weekend trip to in the South Bay and found some standouts.
The calendar’s turned to December and the countdown to the holidays is on. If you need a little help getting into that jolly state of mind, take a break from shopping, grab the kids and find your way to San Jose. There’s some holiday happenings going on even Scrooge would be impressed with.
In the 20-plus years I’ve called California home, I’ve heard Solvang thrown out there more than once, but had never been. My husband has entertaining memories of being dragged.. I mean taken.. antiquing with his parents when he was a kid. So when a family get-together looked to drop us in the center of the Danish tradition-based town, a family-friendly challenge was born.