I'm an attractive twenty-something woman living in the Mission with an active dating and social life. Many of my gay male friends talk about "PNP," which is short for party and play. Basically, it's sex enhanced with the use of crystal meth or other drugs such has GHB. They talk about sex that literally lasts all night long. I can't help but be curious. Non-gay folks seem to use the drug mainly in non-sexual ways, which doesn’t interest me. While none of my gay friends are addicts (or appear to be), they seem totally okay with using drugs once in a while for sex. Would it be the worst thing in the world if I got a connection from one of my friends, and tried it with one of the guys I’m dating?
He Said: Gay men like to joke that they'll try anything three times. The erotic adventurousness of gay life is one of the things that makes it so special, and that makes it hard to argue with the idea of recreational drug use. But, that said, if consumed at all, crystal meth should be used with great caution. For one, it is extremely addictive. For every gay man like your friends who can dabble safely and responsibly, there are two more who become regular users and risk destroying their lives. And even if you don't have an addictive personality or a history of using drugs and alcohol, this drug is different because it can destroy the healthy way you think about sex and romance now. Look at it this way. When you can have totally uninhibited sex all-night, why would you return to awkward dates and fumbling sober sex? The pursuit of sex becomes the end in itself rather than what it should be: Creating the possibility of love and intimacy for a lifetime.
She Said: No, it wouldn’t be the worst thing. I could think of a lot worse. The real question is: Would it be worth it? I don’t mean to be a killjoy, but if you’re seriously considering this, keep in mind two things. First, the incidence of unprotected sex goes way up when drugs are involved. Second, there’s a thing called crystal dick, and you can probably guess what that is. Guys on meth can last for hours, but they sometimes have trouble getting it up first. When that happens, they usually need the help of Viagra—a real sweet one-two punch on the cardiovascular system.
Even putting these two concerns aside, I wonder: What’s so great about sex that lasts literally all night? Personally, I’d take one hour of great sex with no chemicals or hangover, as opposed to eight hours of drug-induced euphoria with a comedown plus potential health risks. I guess this is a subjective thing, but think about it: You’re young and healthy, and you have young, healthy men lining up to have sex with you, and sex is one of the most naturally exciting and pleasurable activities available to human beings. Why would you need to improve upon or multiply that experience? Why not try to savor more of the pleasure that’s right there at your sober little fingertips?
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